There is a book by Jason F. Wright called “The Wednesday Letters”. I have never read the book, if I am being honest. But it has been on my list for a long time. Let me tell you why…
A friend posted about it a year and half ago. She was inspired by the book to exchange “Wednesday Letters” with her husband. Naturally, I looked up the book and this is the description I found (taken from Amazon):
“Their story begins with one letter on their wedding night, a letter from the groom, promising to write his bride every week—for as long they both shall live.
Thirty-nine years later, Jack and Laurel Cooper die in each other’s arms. And when their grown children return to the family B&B to arrange the funeral, they discover thousands of letters.
The letters they read tell of surprising joys and sorrows. They also hint at a shocking family secret—and ultimately force the children to confront a life-changing moment of truth…”
If the description made you want to read the book like it did for me, here is the book on Amazon for only $7.64 (may contain affiliates, but all opinions are my own).
I HAD to start doing this with my husband. We have now been doing this for over a year now and it has been truly incredible.
Here are the benefits I have found from doing so:
- When I write a “Wednesday Letter” I am able to reflect back on the week. I recognize the good things that my husband. I tend to focus more on the things he didn’t do right rather than the things he did do right. This has helped me overall to respond more positively to him throughout the week.
- “Just being able to tell you I love you.” was my husband’s response when I asked what benefits he has found from writing “Wednesday Letters”. (I really do have the best husband, PS.) This really is true though. “Wednesday Letters” has strengthened the love we have for one another because it makes you more grateful for your spouse when you read what they wrote to you.
- Getting a “Wednesday Letter” from my husband is awesome because I get to see how he is feeling and what is going on in his head. Men aren’t always the most vocal so this provides an opportunity for him to express himself in a safe space.
- It is just plain fun to find a letter that my husband has hid for me somewhere. Who doesn’t like to receive a love note?! This has really helped keep the passion alive in our marriage.
- When I was going to extensive therapy during the most deadening times of PPD & anxiety, my therapist asked me about some things that I did for my husband. We talked about the “Wednesday Letters” and he encouraged me to continue this habit. It helps me recognize that I don’t need to be irritated, and to see the times when I could’ve chosen to not get frustrated.
So, if you are looking for a way to improve your marriage, pick a day to write a “Wednesday Letter” to your husband/wife. Set a timer in your phone so you won’t forget! I promise it will bless your marriage. Will you commit to writing a “Wednesday Letter”?
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