Improve Your Marriage with “Wednesday Letters”

There is a book by Jason F. Wright called “The Wednesday Letters”. I have never read the book, if I am being honest. But it has been on my list for a long time. Let me tell you why…

A friend posted about it a year and half ago. She was inspired by the book to exchange “Wednesday Letters” with her husband. Naturally, I looked up the book and this is the description I found (taken from Amazon):

“Their story begins with one letter on their wedding night, a letter from the groom, promising to write his bride every week—for as long they both shall live.

Thirty-nine years later, Jack and Laurel Cooper die in each other’s arms. And when their grown children return to the family B&B to arrange the funeral, they discover thousands of letters.

The letters they read tell of surprising joys and sorrows. They also hint at a shocking family secret—and ultimately force the children to confront a life-changing moment of truth…”

If the description made you want to read the book like it did for me, here is the book on Amazon for only $7.64 (may contain affiliates, but all opinions are my own).

I HAD to start doing this with my husband. We have now been doing this for over a year now and it has been truly incredible.

Here are the benefits I have found from doing so:

  1. When I write a “Wednesday Letter” I am able to reflect back on the week. I recognize the good things that my husband. I tend to focus more on the things he didn’t do right rather than the things he did do right. This has helped me overall to respond more positively to him throughout the week.

  2. “Just being able to tell you I love you.” was my husband’s response when I asked what benefits he has found from writing “Wednesday Letters”. (I really do have the best husband, PS.) This really is true though. “Wednesday Letters” has strengthened the love we have for one another because it makes you more grateful for your spouse when you read what they wrote to you.

  3. Getting a “Wednesday Letter” from my husband is awesome because I get to see how he is feeling and what is going on in his head. Men aren’t always the most vocal so this provides an opportunity for him to express himself in a safe space.

  4. It is just plain fun to find a letter that my husband has hid for me somewhere. Who doesn’t like to receive a love note?! This has really helped keep the passion alive in our marriage.

  5. When I was going to extensive therapy during the most deadening times of PPD & anxiety, my therapist asked me about some things that I did for my husband. We talked about the “Wednesday Letters” and he encouraged me to continue this habit. It helps me recognize that I don’t need to be irritated, and to see the times when I could’ve chosen to not get frustrated.

So, if you are looking for a way to improve your marriage, pick a day to write a “Wednesday Letter” to your husband/wife. Set a timer in your phone so you won’t forget! I promise it will bless your marriage. Will you commit to writing a “Wednesday Letter”?

 Kaitlyn


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47 Comments

  • MyYellowApron

    January 17, 2017

    Beautiful pictures. Loved the post.

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  • This is an amazing gift you are giving both to yourselves and your children, I really love this idea! I am going to start writing letters too, so much more personal than a journal or diary entry addressed to only myself. LOVE IT! Thank you for the inspo! xoxo Robin

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 17, 2017

      I never thought about my children being able to read these letters one day. I am going to have to compile them in a book or something! I hope you really do Robin, and let me know how it goes.

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  • Amber

    January 17, 2017

    This is a fun idea! I might have to try this out with my husband. I always love when he leaves me notes.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 17, 2017

      Exactly! It will benefit you because you will get more notes.

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  • Samahria Richie

    January 17, 2017

    This sounds like the Notebook. I would love to do this with my husband.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 17, 2017

      Right?! I didn’t think of the Notebook but it does seem similar.

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  • Author Brandi Kennedy

    January 17, 2017

    I love this post and can’t wait to read that book! It’s so sweet that you and your husband have taken on this habit in your own marriage too – I’ve pinned this post so that the pin will remind me to adopt this habit myself someday, when I meet my own Mr. Right.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 17, 2017

      I hope you do Miss Brandi! Let me know what you think of the book. We should read it together & then discuss it!

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  • Mihaela Echols

    January 17, 2017

    This is such a cute idea!!! Its the little things that are so big and meaningful.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 17, 2017

      Seriously though! I have honestly loved it. I want to do something similar for my kids but haven’t made the plunge yet.

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  • Michelle Catallo

    January 17, 2017

    This is such a cute idea! I may change this up a bit and do it for my kids so they can keep a memory box of these then at the end of each year, read them again or something. Got my hamster wheel in my mind burning with thoughts right now! Thank you!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 17, 2017

      I love that idea Michelle! Maybe just do monthly letters because weekly might be hard for you to keep up with 3 kiddos. It would be super cute to put them all into a memory book as well!

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  • mira pstr

    January 17, 2017

    Great idea to keep the marriage living the first moments even after a long time.

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  • baldblogging

    January 17, 2017

    I love this post and have added the book to my reading list! What a fab idea and beautiful way to capture your life together, love it!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 18, 2017

      Thank you!!! You should let me know how it is when you read it. Maybe we can chat about it?!

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      • baldblogging

        January 18, 2017

        Mini book club! I’ll look an amazon to see if they do an audio book (I struggle to read at the moment due to medical issues) and if not I’ll buy it and read a little every day!

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      • baldblogging

        January 18, 2017

        Right! Just downloaded the audio book so I will get started tomorrow! I also saw there’s a second book called The Wedding Letters so if I like the first I will get that one too! Will be in touch once I’ve read it!x

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        • Kaitlyn Brough

          January 23, 2017

          I love that you downloaded it! Good work. I apologize it took me so long to respond, for some reason I wasn’t notified of your comment. I will do the same! Maybe we could really do some kind of book chat or something about it?

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          • baldblogging

            January 23, 2017

            Don’t worry that’s fine! Yeah definitely! I’m still getting used to a man reading it when there are so many female characters but I think I just need to take some more time and keep going, I’m enjoying it so far. I don’t know how we can set up a little separate ‘book club’ page haha

          • baldblogging

            January 23, 2017

            I’ve followed you on Instagram and Twitter so maybe through Direct Messaging on there? x

          • Kaitlyn Brough

            January 23, 2017

            Yeah possibly! I will see if there is anyone else interested in joining and we can go from there. I haven’t started it so you are way ahead of me!

          • baldblogging

            January 23, 2017

            Good idea xx

  • Chloe

    January 18, 2017

    What an amazing idea! I love receiving letters and I always store them in a little special box. Your wedding photos are absolutely stunning btw.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 18, 2017

      Thank you Chloe! It was so fun to look back at my pictures and reminisce on that day. I have realized that I haven’t been very good about keeping the letters so I need to be better at that!

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  • Sarah Bailey

    January 18, 2017

    Love the idea and may we adopt this practice of yours? I also wanna share this to my friends who wanted to have a more romantic relationship with their partner. I know it will work amazingly especially if honestly written.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 18, 2017

      I completely agree Sarah! Please, please, please steal the idea and share it with everyone you know. It has been so incredible to do with my husband and I think every couple should do something similar to help keep the passion alive in their relationship.

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  • Heidi

    January 18, 2017

    I’ve read the sequel to that book, but not the first one. I need to read it and maybe give that a try. Thanks for the idea!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 18, 2017

      There is a sequel?! I will have to check it out. I guess I should read the first one and then check it out! You are welcome, please feel free to steal the idea.

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  • veryanxiousmommy

    January 18, 2017

    This is a beautiful idea for couples. Small things to show love and appreciation are the foundation most relationships build from. We should keep doing these acts of love for years to come.
    I wrote a post on my blog about how we should keep dating even after we are married and writing love letters is something my husband did alot when we first started dating. It was something to look forward to. Love this post.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 18, 2017

      Thank you! I agree, it is something we look should keep doing-dating that is. My husband and I strive to go on a date once a week. It doesn’t always happen but we are pretty good to set aside time to spend with just each other. It is so important and a key to a successful marriage!

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  • Wanderlust Vegans

    January 18, 2017

    That’s an adorable idea for expressing your love. I want to know what the shocking family secret is in that book.

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  • GiGi Eats Celebrities

    January 18, 2017

    My husband texted me something totally out of the blue and super sweet earlier – about how he loves me, he doesn’t often express this to me (he claims it makes it far less special)… SO when he does – it’s really something else!

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  • Elizabeth O.

    January 18, 2017

    It sounds like a lovely book and I want to know what happens next, definitely. I’m going to check the book out. A Wednesday Letter sounds like a great idea!

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  • Sondra Barker

    January 19, 2017

    I definitely need to read this book, I’m intrigued to say the least! That’s so lovely that you and your husband have started this as well and the photos you included are so cute!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 19, 2017

      Thank you so much Sondra! I absolutely love doing this with my husband.

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  • 2momsandababyblog

    January 19, 2017

    I love this idea! I will have to try it! and your wedding pictures are beautiful!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 19, 2017

      Thank you Amanda! I get so sad looking at my wedding pictures because I want to re-live that day over and over again.

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  • ohmummymia

    January 19, 2017

    Sounds like really great idea! I need to speak with my husband what he thinks about it but I can say that I like it

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 23, 2017

      Let me know what he says! It is good you are consulting him in doing this since he is kind of an important piece of the puzzle 😉

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  • The Trophy WifeStyle

    January 19, 2017

    Oooo this sounds like one great read! I will have to check it out!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 23, 2017

      Let me know if you would like to join our book club for the book!

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  • Marceline Dementori

    January 23, 2017

    I honestly think this is a lovely idea! I hope to read that book someday, it sounds so interesting. It’s nice to be able to do something like this with your spouse.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 23, 2017

      It really has been so nice! Myself and a couple others are reading the book now. If you would like to join, let me know!

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  • Patty

    January 23, 2017

    I love the concept of this book. I’ll definitely have to put it on my radio list.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 23, 2017

      Yes, and then let me know what you think! I am in the process of waiting to receive it to start reading it.

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