Why They Don’t Tell You

January 16, 2017

To my baby boy,

We celebrated your one-year birthday today.

I can finally say that I understand why they don’t tell you what it really means to be a parent.

Before I became a parent, everyone warned me that I would never get sleep. They warned me that I could kiss my life goodbye. They warned me that my relationship with my husband would not be the same once you got here.

But what they didn’t tell me is that being your mama would be the most fulfilling thing I could ever do in my life. That being your mama would bring me so much joy that there are no words to describe it. That when I look into your eyes there would be a love so deep, so eternal, that our family would be even better because of you.

This last year has been its own kind of special. There have been hard nights, and even harder days. There has been loneliness, tears, feelings of emptiness, exhaustion, and way too many diapers.

But there has also been squeals of joy, peanut butter fingerprints on my kitchen table, wet kisses, toys in the bath tub, lots of snuggles, and little clothes in the dryer.

They don’t tell you what it really means to be a parent because there are no words to describe it. You only understand it once you are a parent. For that same reason, they don’t tell you why it is hard to watch your baby grow.

On this day, I can’t help but picture you going to your first day of Kindergarten. I can’t help but picture you getting baptized when you turn 8. I can’t help but picture you playing in your first sports game & seeing the ginormous smile on your daddy’s face. I can’t help but picture you going to your Senior Prom and thinking that you are in love. I can’t help but picture you serving other people on your 2-year mission. I can’t help but picture you getting married in the temple to the actual love of your life. And last of all, I can’t help but picture you holding your own baby boy for the first time and trying to explain the amount of love you feel.

On that day, my son, you will come to understand why they don’t tell you what it really means to be a parent.

Happy birthday to the boy who made me a mama! I love you forever & ever.

Much love,

Kaitlyn


Here are some of the products that made our first birthday so much fun (may contain affiliates, but all opinions are my own):


1st Birthday Boy Shirt
 (12-18 Months)

1st Birthday Cake Smash Outfit (12-18 Months)

Melissa & Doug Take-Along Wooden Tool Kit (24 pieces)

Battat Mini Monster Trucks (6 trucks)


19 Comments

  • Jessica

    January 24, 2017

    I agree! I keep telling my friends “one day you’ll understand” ❤

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 25, 2017

      Ha how true this is!!! You just don’t get it until you are a parent yourself. There is such a different type of love that you have for your children versus anyone else.

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  • Kwan Hopkins

    January 24, 2017

    This is so touching! I can’t wait for my hubby and I to experience all the joys you have! Enjoy every minute!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 25, 2017

      Thank you Kwan! You will love being a parent so much; just like I said, there are no words to describe it. God bless you!

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  • Crystal Gard

    January 24, 2017

    I don’t have any children but this sounds wonderful. It sounds like you absolutely are enjoying being a mother.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 25, 2017

      You don’t know how much that means to me to hear you say that. I have really struggled to get to the point where I “enjoy” being a mama. Thank you for your sweet comment!

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  • Cynthia Nicoletti

    January 25, 2017

    It is so true. Being a parent is so rewarding it is the best feeling in the world. It looks like your little one enjoyed his 1st Birthday. !! Many more wonderful moments to come !!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 25, 2017

      I hope he enjoyed it, because I sure enjoyed spoiling him!!!

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  • Kim

    January 25, 2017

    Awe this is too cute! You seem like a wonderful mom 🙂 I don’t have children yet but I am sure it is an unexplainable, wonderful feeling!

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  • mira pstr

    January 25, 2017

    I don’t have kids yet but Differently your post will be helpful in the future 🙂

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  • ohmummymia

    January 25, 2017

    My boy will be 1 year in April:) I feel the same I’m the happiest woman in the world because I’m a Mom of my baby boy. Yes I have a days when I cry and I’m very tired but I’m happy:)

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 26, 2017

      Yes I completely agree! Is he your only one? I can’t seem to remember…

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  • Wanderlust Vegans

    January 25, 2017

    It has never been something on my to do list, but glad you are enjoying being a mother. My mom always tells me how much she loves us kids and you can see we mean more to her than anything else in the world. I see this love for us and I honestly cannot bear the heart ache when my imaginary child moves out, or the worry when they stay out too late, or worse.

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 26, 2017

      Is that the reason you don’t want to have kids? Trust me, the heartache is there, but there is also so much unexplainable joy that comes with it.

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  • katrinagehman

    January 25, 2017

    it’s just something you can’t explain. nobody knows until they become a parent then they understand.

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  • Samantha

    January 25, 2017

    Nobody believes me when I tell them anyway!

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      January 26, 2017

      Ha ha that is because you just don’t understand it until you have your own! You just really can’t describe “love”.

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  • Shaundi

    February 6, 2017

    Ok wow make me bawl!! <3

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    • Kaitlyn Brough

      February 6, 2017

      Right?! These babies grow up way too fast and tug at our mama heartstrings. AT least you have a new baby to cuddle right?!

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