I have a lot of people make comments on how lucky I am that O sleeps through the night and that he has since he was 5 weeks old. You read that right, he has slept through the night since he was 5 weeks old.
The truth is, we worked really hard on sleep training. I realize that maybe O boy was an easy baby, but I take full credit for the fact that he is such a good sleeper.
We worked day in and day out, all night long, since day one of O boys life. I remember evenings where we would have to stay right by his crib and comfort him to get him to fall asleep without removing him from his crib
There is one word to answer how I did it…
Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam wrote a book entitled On Becoming Babywise: Give Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep. I am going to answer the who, what, where, when, and why behind my use of this book (may contain affiliate links but all opinions are my own).
DISCLAIMER: I realize there is a lot of differing opinions on Babywise. I am only sharing my opinion and experience as a mama.
This book is for every new parent that wants to sleep train their child. Trust me, you will thank Ezzo and Bucknam for the tremendous recommendations they make in this book because they work!
Here are some others who rave about the usage of Babywise (found in the first few pages of the book):
“As a practicing pediatrician, husband, and father, I enthusiastically recommend On Becoming Babywise. I found the prinicples contained within to be a sigh of welcome relieve to sleepless, weary parents, and more than an ounce of prevention for those who adopt these concepts from the start. I am convinced that the well-tested principles of Babywise produce confident parents, secure and content infants, and peaceful and orderly homes.” – David Blank, M.D., Longmont
“My husband and I had heard all sorts of horror stories and felt so discouraged and defeated before our baby came. Feeding around the clock, unexplained fussiness, and household chaos was not what we wanted. We were introduced to the Babywise concepts a week before our son was born. How timely! As predicted, our happy, contented baby was sleeping through the night at eight weeks. We so appreciate Dr. Bucknam and Mr. Ezzo’s insights, and thank them for giving us the confidence to do what is best for our son.” – A mother from Denver, CO
Babywise is jam-packed with so much good information ranging from ideas on feeding, to how to console a colicky baby. I will just give a brief overview of the idea behind Babywise.
Weeks 1-3 of Baby’s Life
Feed them every 2.5 – 3 hours. Whatever your child’s “morning feeding” is, let’s say around 7:00 AM, you feed them when they first wake up. Then, you do any hygiene cares and keep your babe up for minimal wake time. Your child’s feeding and wake time only totals 30-50 minutes. You then put them back down for a nap for between 1.5 – 2 hours.
After this 1.5 – 2 hours, you wake your child up for the next schedule. The key is to feed, play/wake time, followed by sleep.
DISCLAIMER: If you child is acting hungry before the 2.5 – 3 hour mark, feed them!!!! You don’t have to wait until that time frame has passed. You would then do your routine the same and go 2.5 – 3 hours from that time.
Some may argue that if your child is asleep still, why wake them? This is something that was crucial to my success with O boy; I stuck to this schedule as strictly as I could. You have to stick to the schedule or it won’t work
Babywise breaks down each stage for you. They teach you how to drop night time feedings, what do if you like a more flexible schedule, and what to expect from your child in each stage.
This may seem like a weird question about Babywise, but you can do this anywhere. Some would argue that you would never be able to leave your house because you have to stick to the schedule to find success.
What I love about the schedule is that you can plan your day around it. For example, when your baby has wake time, that is when you can go to the grocery store. Or when your baby has sleep time, that is when you can plan for friends to come.
I tried to stick to the schedule as much as possible, but I realize that life gets in the way. Just do the best you can! I am a believer that when you have children it doesn’t mean everything in your whole life has to change and you become some-sort-of prisoner in your home. No, you can still have a life. You just have to fit your baby’s schedule into that life.
Start using Babywise as early as you can with your newborn. It will help you find success faster and lessen the fatigue you experience.
However, if you find this resource late in the game, they do have information in the book on where to start your child in the Babywise progression.
First off, as a new mama you have no idea what you are doing! Can I get an amen?!
My sister-in-law gave me the book and suggested I try it out, so I did. I hadn’t heard much about it but I am glad that I chose to give it a shot.
Second, I like structure and order in my life. The Babywise method was good for me because I knew exactly what my day would look like. I could plan based on O boy’s first feeding. A schedule is good for your baby too because then they know what to expect! It helps them transition easier, and helps lessen anxiety as a new mama.
Third, it was something I had control over. Having a new baby is hard because your whole life is different and you feel like you can’t control anything. As much as you want your baby to stop crying or go to sleep, you can’t control that. Babywise helped me get a little bit of control back in my life. I will be forever grateful for that, honestly.
I highly recommend the Babywise method. I also realize that every baby and mama is different. Do what is best for you and your family!
Here are some other products that helped us find success regarding sleep with a newborn
(may contain affiliate links but all opinions are my own):
Okay this seriously saved our bacon! On rough nights when we couldn’t get O boy to go back to sleep, we could put him in the this and it would rock him automatically. Very convenient when you can barely keep your eyes open!
Carter’s Babysoft Swaddle Blankets (2 pack)
These were the BEST swaddle blankets. The material is stretchy so you can wrap your babe tight enough that they can’t roll out of it.